Man, it’s been a tough week for rock/pop stars. Well, if I’m being honest it’s been a tough week for all of us who enjoyed the music that sadly went silent for good this week. In the strange macabre way, it came in 3’s again when we lost Tony Bennett, Sinead O’Connor and ex-Eagle Randy Meisner over the last eight days. It’s odd when a celebrity dies, especially if it’s a popular movie actor or singer. I never knew Tony Bennett. We never hung out drinking martinis in a steak joint. Same goes for Sinead O’Connor… while I was a man about town, Sinead and I never hung out. I never sat in a bar with Randy Meisner lamenting the end of a relationship. But then again, I have hung out in a steak joint while Tony crooned in the background… it’s always either Tony or the Chairman of the Board in Italian steak joints. I did sit staring mesmerized at Sinead O’Connor’s face in that strikingly intimate video for “Nothing Compares To You.” I didn’t know until years later it was a Prince cover. And finally, I did sit around drinking and listening to Randy and the Eagles play “Take It To the Limit” and “Try And Love Again” when I was despairing about the end of a relationship with someone I probably can’t even remember any more. I didn’t know these artists and yet they were a part of my life. Maybe that’s why we’re all a little collectively bummed right now.
Art and the artist who make it – and I consider rock n roll to be one of the highest art forms – is such a huge part of all of our existence. If there was no art – no paintings, no music, no books – things would be pretty gray and dull around here. It’d be a dystopian existence like something out of Orwell’s 1984. Or it’d probably be a lot like current day Florida where they recently banned the autobiography of Hank Aaron? Perhaps only superseded by painting, music has always had a huge effect on me. It can, with a melody or a lyric, capture a mood or a feeling I have and express that feeling far better than I ever could. When I heard Randy singing “Try And Love Again” and the lyric “Well it might take years to see through all these tears…” I knew I wasn’t alone in how I was feeling… there were others who had gone through what I was going through and they made it through “the rain.”
There was a wide range in careers of these three artists. One was a legend, one had a very difficult life and the third was sort of a man in the shadows. While their losses weren’t as titanic for me as say, Tom Petty or Bowie, they all touched me in one way or another. I wanted to share my brief thoughts on each as a way to honor all of them.
Tony Bennett was 96 and suffering from dementia when he passed last week… that’s what we call in my family both a good, long ride and a blessing that he passed. Other than Sinatra, Bennett was the greatest crooner ever. As he aged he just continued to stay so hip, like a groovy jazz uncle. He even did an MTV Unplugged. He did duet albums with k.d. lang and Lady Gaga. He became a true legend singing the songs from the “Great American Song Book.” Sinatra, his mentor, was once asked by a reporter this question – “Frank, many people listen to your music to get in “the mood.” Who do you listen to?” His answer, “Antony Dominick Benedetto.” Pretty cool that the Chairman is listening to your music while making his moves. The Rock Chick and I sat around last Friday listening exclusively to Tony… and yes it works! The tributes that poured out for this man were touching and myriad. The world will miss Tony Bennett.
Sinead O’Connor’s loss at 56 breaks my heart. I hope that troubled soul has finally found some peace. I was never a huge fan but was obviously aware of her and her music. Like everybody else I was a fan of “Nothing Compares To You.” She did a great Dylan cover of “Property of Jesus.” As my best buddy Doug texted me this morning, “RIP to Sinead O’Connor. Don’t quite know how to feel about her work in reflection, though I do get the point that she truly lived the causes she believed in and sometimes it means you become a pariah.” I think that encapsulates my feelings better than anything I could come up with on my own. I know a handful of her tunes, I thought she had a magnificent voice and that she was an extremely brave activist. Her protests against the Catholic Church, especially in Ireland, was nothing short of tremendous courage. She’d lost a son when he was 17. I just wish I’d known her so I could have given her a hug.
Randy Meisner, founding member and bass player for the Eagles, is the unsung hero on this list of loss. He was a guy who never wanted the spotlight. He struggled to take center stage and sing his signature Eagles’ song “Take It To The Limit.” He preferred to hover in the shadows at the back of the stage providing that beautiful, high harmony vocal. In a band full of assholes, it seems like he was a pretty nice guy. Eventually struggling with the conflict in the band he quit after the tour in support of Hotel California. He joins Glen Frey, his erstwhile bandmate, in the celestial jam band… I did hear, while he struggled the latter part of his life with health issues, that the band paid his medical bills. Maybe that asshole thing has mellowed in the Eagles.
I always feel very reflective when I hear about someone that meant something to me having passed. I lost a dear friend this last January, maybe I’m just getting sentimental. But each of these artist’s music meant something to me at some point in my life. Even if it was just a stray song, they each touched my life in some way. When an artist creates something truly universal it becomes a part of all who absorb it and when the artist dies, it’s like that little piece of you goes with them. It’s a little tug at the heart strings. It’s easy to look at this and think, “Well, they’re gone but life keeps marching on…” That’s true but these artists have each left an indelible legacy. A professor I had in college said to me once, “When you die the only legacy you leave is your kids and whatever you’ve published…” I would argue that each of these three great artists have left a tremendous legacy. Each will be remembered.
It can be a long dark ride out there. Whether it’s the loss of my friend earlier this year, or the loss of these great artists, it has made me realize it’s really important to live in the moment. Invest in the relationships and things in life that bring you joy. Life is really short and can be really sweet. I don’t know what my point is here, but I felt the need to grieve for these tremendous people. Take care of each other out there.
Cheers!